ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
When is enough, enough? This subject is as broad as the seven seas and just as deep. It can refer to small issues between friends or ones as large as war between two nations.
Ignoring the size of the combatants, someone or something is pushing (the pusher),and someone is being pushed (the pushee) to their limit of their endurance and unless a cool head on the one being pushed prevails there will be trouble ahead. The severity of trouble depends on what is at stake and how much has been lost by the pushee, be it wealth, face, dignity or any other perceived indignity.
The pushee needs to take a deep breath, evaluate the circumstance and make plans to change lifestyle and try living life in a different manner.
How does anyone finally decide that ‘enough is enough’? Probably by more than one perception. Maybe by being too nice, or not having enough self-confidence, or taking on more than you can handle (an unrealistic expectation of self), not facing up to some form of failure. There likely are more but will explore some of the most obvious here.
We all know the gut wrenching feeling when we finally realize we have invested too much time, money or both into a business or relationship because the rewards are slim to none. We experience that “let down feeling” but find it hard to let go because of the investment factor and our gut tells us that to continue is pure foolishness. That is the sensible side saying to cut losses and get out. This for many is just too difficult to do and so lose on both ends of the equation. This sometimes is referred to as “biting off more than one can chew” then trying to swallow something that is no good for our well being as described above.
Then there are those other times when we don’t perceive that ‘getting out’ is the best option for us and usually for our opposite too. This happens in marriage when both have tried their best to make it work and to go onward is foolish as innocents are at risk so we have trouble swallowing our pride, take the hit and make the break. Now we need to be a good negotiator and a good person in order for the other to save face is a must but very hard to do but for the innocents. It is usually the best option because they have feelings too and adults must now consider them because up until now likely haven’t done so well in that department. Enough is enough.
Our modern ‘communications’ world seems to be getting the message out on this and other matters, but as much as we seem to progress we also fall back into some almost unmanageable situations. The U.S. government for instance has allowed that very wealthy country to slip into a financial morass of gigantic proportions that has affected money matters world wide. “Partisan politics” they yell. “Support the Party” they scream, and meanwhile people in their own country are losing their homes, businesses and more. They seem to forget the speeches of Abraham Lincoln with his pleas to bring the Nation together. Never did he holler “Bipartisan Politics”. He led by humble example and inspiration that is still relevant today.
Is it time for politicians to adopt a new tack by announcing “enough is enough” to the party nonsense and take an approach that is “for the good of the Nation” instead?
I hope so.
Ron Lehman, Aug/2011
